Interested vs. Interesting

Written by: Kevin Murray

You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

How can a book first published back in 1936 still remain atop of the bestseller list?

The book surely appeals to universal truths that endure through time. It must discuss concepts and principles that have ubiquitous relevance and can be easily understood and implemented.

Puzzle key

Dale Carnegie’s “How To Win Friends And Influence People” has stood the test of time, & there isn’t much ambiguity in understanding why. One of the standout principles in the best seller is simple, and yet rarely practiced:

Become genuinely interested in other people.

To help understand this concept in more depth, let’s borrow a question from Mr. Carnegie’s bestseller:

Have you ever stopped to think how a dog is just about the only animal that doesn’t have to work for a living? A hen lays eggs, a cow provides milk or beef, a horse gets ridden but a dog only has to love you.”

All dogs share a universal purpose – to unconditionally love their owners. In other words, dogs are masters at being genuinely interested in other people. How do they accomplish this so well?

Through playfulness, excitement and affection. By constantly wagging their tail and following us everywhere we go, and by rarely leaving our side… and so much more.

Are human beings so different than dogs? When we become genuinely interested in other people, they feel it. It becomes visceral for them, and in the process can build the foundation for establishing trust & rapport, which is essential in any successful movement intervention.

How does becoming genuinely interested in other people influence our relationships with clients?

Doing so immediately encourages the client to select a paintbrush (of their choice), and in his or her unique way, paint a clear picture of what is meaningful to them. It’s during this process the client defines precisely what a successful outcome looks like – in essence, eliminating the guesswork for the movement practitioner.

By taking a page from one of the most be-loved animals there are, we can increase our capacity to serve by becoming genuinely interested in others.

Written by:

Kevin Murray
Movement Masterminds – CEO
Function First – Director of Education